There’s this self-love cliché about “taking yourself on a date.” You’re supposed to get dressed up, go out, and “fall in love with your own company.” Sounds nice, right? But honestly, being alone—especially during the holidays—kind of sucks.
Most of the time, I’m by myself. I’ve moved to a new city, I’m single, and finding people who like the same weird stuff I do is harder than you’d think. The loneliness hits harder during the holidays when everyone seems to be surrounded by friends, family, or partners. But here’s the thing: I’m not letting it ruin my night.
Tonight, I’m taking myself to my work holiday party. Yep, solo. It’s awkward, and it’s tempting to just stay home and avoid the whole thing, but instead of letting the loneliness get to me, I’m flipping it.
I’m wearing what I want, having a nice dinner, and being my own date. No one’s telling me what I can eat, what music I can listen to while getting ready, or what to do with my night. And honestly, there’s some freedom in that.
The truth is, self-love isn’t always pretty or Instagram-worthy. Sometimes, it’s just about showing up for yourself when no one else can. It’s about not letting the emptiness win, even if it’s just for one night.
Until I find my people—and I know they’re out there—I’ll keep doing my own thing. Whether that’s going to a concert solo, grabbing dinner alone, or, in this case, showing up at a party with just me, myself, and I.
So here’s my challenge to you: if you’re feeling the loneliness this holiday season, don’t let it keep you from living your life. Wear what you want. Eat what you love. Be your own date. And maybe, just maybe, have a little fun along the way.
Embrace your weird,
Nick
Founder, Self Loathe Club
